At contra dances I'll sometimes skip out on the initial partnering
to see if there's someone who didn't end up with a partner but would
like one. I've done this the most at dances where I have some sort
of responsibility in the group (bida, the contra dances at
swarthmore), but I try to do it whenever I notice people getting
left out. This works pretty well at getting people in, especially
new people. The main way it doesn't work is if I get asked to dance
by an experienced dancer when I intend to be doing this. I can
avoid that somewhat by making myself scarce refilling water pitchers
or whatever, but sometimes people who are fun to dance with and will
not be having any trouble finding a partner ask me right away. I
can say "I'm sorry; I'm looking for a left out newcomer to dance
with" but that's kind of strange and a bit of a mouthful. I think
what I need is a name for this activity. Is there one already in
use somewhere else? I'd like to be able to say "sorry, not this
dance, I'm [name-of-this]ing".
Another advantage of a name is that even if the person I'm talking
to doesn't understand me at the time beyond "jeff won't dance, need
to find a different partner", if they come talk to me later I can
give more detail and it will have a name attached.
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